Carol Noble is a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist and pre-accredited member of the Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (IACP).
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“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Fear is the strongest of all shackles holding us back. Fear stops us from trying, prevents us from taking risks, growing, learning & succeeding. It weakens our spirit and creates in us anxiety, self doubt, negative self talk, low self esteem, judgement and in extreme cases hate. However fear can be conquered, anxiety can be worked through, practical and emotional skills can be learned and developed. Don’t let fear hold you back! Contact Carol@believecounselling.ie or call 0867371737 and take back your control.
I would be of the opinion that hope is one of the most important beliefs a person can have. It may feel like the hurt and pain experienced during difficult times will never end but it does. Sometimes we need a little hope just to keep us going.
If you find yourself feeling that you are lacking in something take a minute to appreciate what you do have. You will find that you have more to be grateful for that you think! Why not take a minute at the end of each day to acknowledge what you are grateful for. It can be anything from getting a seat on the bus or having the perfect latte, to tucking your kids in at night or telling someone you love them. Being grateful for the little things can change how you view the world and increase your happiness. Give it a try!
Forgiving some one who has hurt or harmed us can be one of the most difficult things to do. We may never understand what happened or why. We may spend years trying to find an answer, trying to understand but never find closure. We may hold on to the hurt, memories, anger and think why should I forgive them? They don’t deserve forgiveness!
One of the most significant realisations I have had in relation to forgiveness is that forgiving someone does not excuse their actions or behaviour, it frees us to move on with our lives. It frees us from reliving the hurt, from the stress and strains we feel in our bodies. Holding on to negativity from the past only keeps us stuck. If you allow yourself to accept the past as being the past and forgive the people who have caused you pain you can free yourself to move forward. Take control of the present, feel stronger and strive for the future you want. Forgive others who have caused you pain and forgive yourself for holding onto that pain. Let it go. Life is yours to cultivate, never let the past hold you back. Learn from it, let life’s struggles make you stronger, be who you want to be!
We can all fall into negative thought patterns from time to time but when this thinking becomes a habit we can remain stuck and become depressed. Perhaps you criticise yourself, mind read others (believe you know what others are thinking without any evidence or discussion) or perhaps you put to much pressure on yourself or others by saying things like I “must”, I “should” or they “should” or he “must” etc.. If you find yourself stuck, depressed or with a low mood try to challenge and change your thinking! Contact believecounselling.ie or call Carol on 0867371737 to arrange an appointment. Take control of your mental health today and look forward to a brighter tomorrow!
Giving back can be one of the most rewarding things a person can do. It will lift your soul. You can change lives, help and inspire others just by giving your time and focus to someone or something you care about.
It is true that nobody is perfect therefore it is important to offer ourselves and others the gift of acceptance. We all make mistakes, we can all make bad decisions but remember that does not make us bad people.
Fear is the single biggest obstacle holding us back from fore filling our potential. Only when we face our fears head on can we move in the right direction. Facing our fears is never easy but it is rarely as hard as you imagine once you have conquered them.
Do one thing this weekend that will scare and excite you! Let me know how you get on.