Tag Archives: stress

Be Brave, Make a Change!

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Change can be a scary thought and actually taking the necessary steps can feel daunting, even terrifying!

Change however brings hope, adventure, challenges and new possibilities. It allows us to move forward, plan, experience and live our dreams.

By embracing changes and tackling the fears that holds us back we grow, we learn, we flourish, we live, we become who we want to be and create the life we want to lead.

Don’t let your fears hold you back. Be brave and take control of your life and your future! 

For help with tackling the issues that are keeping you stuck take the first step, call Carol on 0867371737 or email carol@believecounselling.ie

Changing your life starts now! 

 

 

 

 

Are you asking the right questions of yourself?

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As a therapist work I with individuals to help them to help themself. Asking the right questions is an important part of my work. If you are suffering from stress, anxiety, depression, work/family/relationship issues, or anything situation or problem that has you feeling stuck or unable to cope contact me at carol@believecounselling.ie.

Mindfulness and Stress Reduction

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Let’s be honest it can be difficult to find a feeling of calm when we are stressed, worried or anxious! Teaching our self to become calm at these times is a very powerful tool. I believe being mindful (consciously staying present in the moment) is one of the greatest lessons we can learn. The ability to be in the moment allows us to not be concerned with the past or the future. We can only work with what is happening right now. To worry about the uncertainties of the future or situations from the past is a waste of time, energy and probably causing you unnecessary stress. 

When you are stressed out, anxious or worried ask yourself these simple questions;

What am I stressed out about? (Am I worried about something that has not happened and may not ever happen Or am I reliving/beating myself up over something from my past?)

Do I have control over this situation? (Is there something I can physically do to improve this situation or is someone else making the decisions?)

If you have no control over the situation take a few deep breaths, acknowledge that you can not change events and Let it Go!!

You are only hurting yourself by holding on to things you have no control over. Yes, I know some of us like to be in control of everything but it is simply not possible and accepting this is the first step to letting go.

 

Life is about choices. Be sure that when you make a choice it is the right one for YOU.

Everyone has an opinion and loved ones may try to help you make choices but trust your heart and be true to yourself. Never make a decision you are not happy with to please others. Always value your decisions they are your truth.

It’s your life live it your way, just be kind to others on your journey.

How far are you willing to go?

Never stop pushing yourself! Learning, growing, facing your fears, this is Living!!! 

Live well and be Happy!

Are you able to say ‘NO’?

 

It feels good to help others out as it can give us a sense of pride, accomplishment and importance. Far too often however we can put others before themselves out of a sense of obligation, fear of rejection & being judged and of being viewed negatively by others if we say ‘No’. 

‘No’, is one of the most powerful words in the English language. It allows us to decide for ourselves what we choose to do or not do. I have found that people forget that they have a choice in every situation, that they have the right to say no. 

Remember we can not do everything for everyone that asks us for help and there is no reason to feel bad for saying no. I have found that if you politely say no people will understand.

Today I want to encourage you to look at why you choose to do or not do things that come up in your life, be they for yourself or others as this will increase your self awareness. I also want to encourage you to feel free to say No! 

 

 

The Truth About Depression BBC Documentary 2013

Depression is possibly one of the most common and spoken about mental illnesses experienced today. With reportedly a one in four risk of someone experiencing depression in their life time and yet there is still a massive stigma around it and mental health in general.

Thankfully mental illness, in particular depression, is being highlighted in the media on a regular basis which is helping to educate and encourage those who suffer to seek out treatment be that talk therapy, anti-depressants or a combination of both.

I wanted to post this BBC Documentary because I found it to be particularly interesting both from a medical understanding and from first hand accounts of people’s experiences of depression in how it affects them, their lives and the lives of people around them.

 

http://youtu.be/F5YubjEqbZ8

 

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How would focusing on the positive change your life?

If we are to simplify our lives by focusing on what is really important (family, friends, love, fun, a sense of belonging, helping others etc) and took the time to appreciate the little day to day things, how much of a difference do you think that would make to your life?

Happiness

Growth Yes Please!

If we are to grow we need to recognise where we have been, where we are now and where we want to go. Growth is achieved through making mistakes and learning from them. Perfection is an illusion, a standard not possible for anyone to reach. Be yourself, make mistakes and move forward on your journey for your mistakes will make you stronger and wiser enriching your your life.

 

Growth – Yes Please!

 

If we are to grow we need to recognise where we have been, where we are now and where we want to go. Growth is achieved through making mistakes and learning from them. Perfection is an illusion, a standard not possible for anyone to reach. Be yourself, make mistakes and move forward on your journey for your mistakes will make you stronger and wiser enriching your your life.

 

It is nearly the weekend!

 

Make the most of your weekend, love laugh and be happy!!

 

 

 

7 Reasons Most People are Afraid of Love by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

I stumbled across this interesting article on psychologytoday.com on the reasons why most people are afraid of real love. It is written by Lisa Firestone Ph.D and is a very interesting read. Enjoy!

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201401/7-reasons-most-people-are-afraid-love?tr=MostViewed 

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” – Bob Moawad