Tag Archives: Psychotherapy

Be Brave, Make a Change!


Change can be a scary thought and actually taking the necessary steps can feel daunting, even terrifying!

Change however brings hope, adventure, challenges and new possibilities. It allows us to move forward, plan, experience and live our dreams.

By embracing changes and tackling the fears that holds us back we grow, we learn, we flourish, we live, we become who we want to be and create the life we want to lead.

Don’t let your fears hold you back. Be brave and take control of your life and your future! 

For help with tackling the issues that are keeping you stuck take the first step, call Carol on 0867371737 or email carol@believecounselling.ie

Changing your life starts now! 





Are you asking the right questions of yourself?


As a therapist work I with individuals to help them to help themself. Asking the right questions is an important part of my work. If you are suffering from stress, anxiety, depression, work/family/relationship issues, or anything situation or problem that has you feeling stuck or unable to cope contact me at carol@believecounselling.ie.

Look at life through a different lens!


Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings influence your behaviour which in turn effects your physiology.

For example:

When we have negative thoughts the little voice in all our heads might tell us  “I am worthless”, “nobody likes me”, “I’ll never meet a man, sure who would want me” etc.. This negative voice is called your ‘Inner Critic’.

The critic is filling your head full of rubbish and distroying your self esteem so it is important to recognise this and challenge the critic constantly until you have control over it. This takes time and practice but will happen if you keep at it.

Now, for example, if your inner critic is telling you, ‘you will never get a man’ this will more then likely make you feel sad, depressed, unloved, ugly, lonely, worthless, perhaps afraid of being alone, which feeds into more negative thoughts and emotions.

So now we have negative thoughts creating our negative emotions. How does this effect our behaviour?

Well, we might avoid going out or seeing our friends becoming isolated. We may avoid situations or particular people or places. We may turn to alcohol or other drugs to numb the pain. We may use food to comfort ourself by over eating which may add to feeling down because now we feel guilty for bingeing too. Eating badly, drinking, not going out and mixing with friends/keeping up with hobbies etc also add to our feeling low and physically we may feel tired, irritable, depressed etc which leads back to more negative thoughts which feed the cycle.

To break the cycle we must first realise that we are in control of our thoughts and how we think effects us profoundly. Positive thinking really can change your life!

To book a counselling session contact Carol on 0867371737 or email Carol@believecounselling.ie 

Skype sessions also available.



Enjoy making mistakes, they make us Human!


There are so many people who wear masks or try to please others not taking into account their own needs and feelings. Slowly they are loosing them selves, their spirit is dying and their confidence low. Never be anyone other then who you are or who you want to be. Drop the mask, live your life, be free!

You CAN Overcome any Fear.. it all starts with the first step…


We all have a fear of something or perhaps more accurately multiple things! The trouble is when we allow fear to control us, to stop us being ourselves, reaching our true potential or living the life we want to lead. Fear can be debilitating and left unchallanged can lead to anxiety disorders, stress, depression and even suicide. Realising and admitting our fears to our self can feel scary and unsettling but I believe not addressing or facing your fears can be more painful in the long run. Talking to mental health professional and working on the problem will change your life. It all starts with the first step… pick up the phone or send an email and make that first appointment! You deserve to live the happiest and most fulfilled life you can, don’t let life pass you by!! 



True friends are hard to come by. A real friend will support you even if they don’t agree with you and will always tell you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it! Friends know our strengths and our flaws but love us for who we are regardless. 

Take Care of Yourself, there is only One You!!

Self care is the most important gift we can give to our self. No one knows better than us what we need day to day, moment to moment to make us feel good. Taking time to ask yourself what do I need? What am I missing? What would make me happy?

Never be afraid to say NO to requests if you don’t want to commit. Doing what makes you happy keeps you healthy mentally, physically and spiritually. Remember if we are not feeling strong and happy within we won’t have anything to give to the people around us.

Take care of yourself first then enjoy life and the people around you.

Life is about choices. Be sure that when you make a choice it is the right one for YOU.

Everyone has an opinion and loved ones may try to help you make choices but trust your heart and be true to yourself. Never make a decision you are not happy with to please others. Always value your decisions they are your truth.

It’s your life live it your way, just be kind to others on your journey.

Depression – Signs to Watch Out For

What is Depression?

Depression is more than feeling down after hearing bad news or having a bad day these feelings are normal reactions to everyday situations.

Depression is more than that it is a mental health condition that affects an individuals thinking, energy, feelings and behaviour. It can range from mild to sever and greatly impacts the individual’s life on multiple levels interfering with work, home, social and intimate relationships. The signs to be aware of are listed below. If you or a loved one has four or more of these symptoms for a period of over two weeks please consult your GP.


Depression – Signs and Symptoms  


Feelings of helplessness, guilt, worthlessness, and pessimism everything feels hopeless

Loss of interest in or pleasure from activities you once enjoyed

Low mood, feeling empty or anxious

Sleep Disturbances – sleeping too much or to little

Decreased energy levels, fatigue, feeling weighed down

Changes in Appetite – Over eating or under eating – weight loss or weight gain

Difficulty remembering, concentrating or making decisions

Feeling irritable, restless or excessive crying

Physical symptoms such as headaches, nausea, persistent unexplained aches and pains that do not respond to treatment

Thoughts of Suicide or Suicidal Ideology

Attempted Suicide – Please contact Emergency Services Immediately


Remember! Depression is treatable or manageable with the right care. Do not suffer in silence, take the steps required to get your life back on track. You deserve to be yourself again.


The Gift of a Smile

A smile is something that can melt a person’s heart. When you are feeling low or having a bad day a smile from a stranger can lift your spirit instantly. It is a free and easy gift to give generously to the world around you. You may never know what it meant to a stranger in that moment but it could have had a profound effect. Keep smiling!! 

Embrace Who You Are, You Are Unique and that is Priceless!

Accepting yourself as you are flaws and all (we all have them) brings such as sense of freedom. Knowing yourself well enough to know your flaws and to work with them instead of against them brings great strength and wisdom. The best thing I ever did was accept that I am not perfect. I am uniquely me. Love me or hate me it doesn’t matter it is how we see ourselves that truly counts.