Tag Archives: forgiveness

Got a Guilty Conscience??

Some people find it impossible to own up to their mistakes. Some people would rather loose friends and family then admit to doing wrong or causing hurt. Others are so unaware of the impact they have on people around them that they may never know what it feels like to have a guilty conscience. Whatever their reasons are, however they view themselves or a situation, if someone has hurt you and does not own their actions ask yourself, are they someone who lifts you up or holds you back? Those who love us lift us up and take responsibility when they hurt us.

The Truth About Depression BBC Documentary 2013

Depression is possibly one of the most common and spoken about mental illnesses experienced today. With reportedly a one in four risk of someone experiencing depression in their life time and yet there is still a massive stigma around it and mental health in general.

Thankfully mental illness, in particular depression, is being highlighted in the media on a regular basis which is helping to educate and encourage those who suffer to seek out treatment be that talk therapy, anti-depressants or a combination of both.

I wanted to post this BBC Documentary because I found it to be particularly interesting both from a medical understanding and from first hand accounts of people’s experiences of depression in how it affects them, their lives and the lives of people around them.






How would focusing on the positive change your life?

If we are to simplify our lives by focusing on what is really important (family, friends, love, fun, a sense of belonging, helping others etc) and took the time to appreciate the little day to day things, how much of a difference do you think that would make to your life?


Growth Yes Please!

If we are to grow we need to recognise where we have been, where we are now and where we want to go. Growth is achieved through making mistakes and learning from them. Perfection is an illusion, a standard not possible for anyone to reach. Be yourself, make mistakes and move forward on your journey for your mistakes will make you stronger and wiser enriching your your life.


Growth – Yes Please!


If we are to grow we need to recognise where we have been, where we are now and where we want to go. Growth is achieved through making mistakes and learning from them. Perfection is an illusion, a standard not possible for anyone to reach. Be yourself, make mistakes and move forward on your journey for your mistakes will make you stronger and wiser enriching your your life.


It is nearly the weekend!


Make the most of your weekend, love laugh and be happy!!




7 Reasons Most People are Afraid of Love by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

I stumbled across this interesting article on psychologytoday.com on the reasons why most people are afraid of real love. It is written by Lisa Firestone Ph.D and is a very interesting read. Enjoy!


“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” – Bob Moawad

Hope – Where are we without it?

Tips for Preventing Burnout!

Tips for Preventing Burnout

Set boundaries: Learning how to say ‘NO’ will allow you not to over extend yourself or take on additional tasks that may cause you stress. Remember it is important to say ‘NO’ so you can have time for yourself or the tasks you would prefer to be doing.

Try to start the day with a meditation or by taking a few minutes to clear your mind and just breathe.

Eat healthy, exercise regularly and get good nights sleep. This will help with your mental health in general enabling you to manage life’s daily challenges better.

Ban technology for at least an hour every day. Switch of your PC, Laptop, phones and communication devices. Allow yourself to disengage completely.  

Take up a hobby, something that you will enjoy and look forward to doing.

Why not try something you have always wanted to do but never gotten around too? Or return to that kickboxing class?

Connecting with nature and being creative can be very therapeutic. Allow yourself to be creative in any form that works for you. Painting, drawing, kitting, writing songs, poems etc..

Burnout – Behavioural Signs


Behavioural Signs of Burnout


Isolating yourself from the people around you


Avoiding or withdrawing from responsibilities

Arriving late to work, leaving work early or not going in at all

Snapping at people around you for no good reason

Using alcohol, drugs or food as a coping mechanism 

Check in tomorrow for tips on how to recover from burnout and how to avoid it in the future!


Workplace Bullying!!


While standing in line at the supermarket earlier I witnessed a shop assistant being both physically and verbally assaulted by another member of staff. Naturally I was appalled and so sought out and made a complaint to the manager on duty but it got me thinking. How many of us have experienced or know of someone who has experienced workplace bullying?

There does not appear to be any up to date statistics on the subject in Ireland but in 2007 a report commissioned by the Department of Enterprise, Trade and Employment found that out of 3,500 employees who responded to the survey 7.9% had experienced bullying in the previous six months, 10.7% of women and 5.8% of men where at risk, 60% of respondents considered quitting there jobs while 48% indicated that it had a negative effect on their life outside of work.

Check out Reachout.com for more information on workplace bullying.





Burnout – Emotional Signs

Emotional Signs

Loss of your sense of self or doubting yourself

A feeling of detachment, feeling alone

Loss of motivation

Feeling defeated, helpless and trapped

Self doubt and a sense of failure

A lack of satisfaction or feeling of accomplishment from achievements

A negative outlook


Check back tomorrow for the behavioural signs of burnout… 




The Reality of Depression

Feel free to Change… Make 2014 Your Year!

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“The past has no power over the present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle

The past can affect us all in different ways as any significant experience can have a lasting effect on us. As children we are thought rules, thought how to behave as such we learn to see the world as it has been presented to us by those around us. Sometimes we can take on other people’s views as our own without ever stopping to question what we have been told. Unconsciously we develop defense mechanisms to protect ourselves from situations that cause us hurt, pain and anxiety. We may disassociate, become defensive and act out, rationalise or deny what is happening in order to survive. It is important however to remember that we can think for ourselves and decide what we believe to be true. Likewise we can change our behaviour in the present to move forward in a more healthy and productive way. Holding on to old defense mechanisms that no longer serves us can keep us stuck and work against us. As Maya Angelou once said, “when you know better, you do better” so it is important to take what you learn and make it work for you. Remember, don’t let the past determine your future follow your own path in life.