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You Always have a Choice!


Make the choice to change your life today!!

Contact carol@believecounselling.ie or 0867371737

Learn & Develop New Life Skills

Manage Your Stress

Build your Self Esteem

Improve your Communication Skills

Work through your fears, anxieties, negative thinking and face day to day problems head on!

Take the first step to Empowering Yourself don’t let fear hold you back!







Be Brave, Make a Change!


Change can be a scary thought and actually taking the necessary steps can feel daunting, even terrifying!

Change however brings hope, adventure, challenges and new possibilities. It allows us to move forward, plan, experience and live our dreams.

By embracing changes and tackling the fears that holds us back we grow, we learn, we flourish, we live, we become who we want to be and create the life we want to lead.

Don’t let your fears hold you back. Be brave and take control of your life and your future! 

For help with tackling the issues that are keeping you stuck take the first step, call Carol on 0867371737 or email carol@believecounselling.ie

Changing your life starts now! 





Are you asking the right questions of yourself?


As a therapist work I with individuals to help them to help themself. Asking the right questions is an important part of my work. If you are suffering from stress, anxiety, depression, work/family/relationship issues, or anything situation or problem that has you feeling stuck or unable to cope contact me at carol@believecounselling.ie.

Look at life through a different lens!


Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings influence your behaviour which in turn effects your physiology.

For example:

When we have negative thoughts the little voice in all our heads might tell us  “I am worthless”, “nobody likes me”, “I’ll never meet a man, sure who would want me” etc.. This negative voice is called your ‘Inner Critic’.

The critic is filling your head full of rubbish and distroying your self esteem so it is important to recognise this and challenge the critic constantly until you have control over it. This takes time and practice but will happen if you keep at it.

Now, for example, if your inner critic is telling you, ‘you will never get a man’ this will more then likely make you feel sad, depressed, unloved, ugly, lonely, worthless, perhaps afraid of being alone, which feeds into more negative thoughts and emotions.

So now we have negative thoughts creating our negative emotions. How does this effect our behaviour?

Well, we might avoid going out or seeing our friends becoming isolated. We may avoid situations or particular people or places. We may turn to alcohol or other drugs to numb the pain. We may use food to comfort ourself by over eating which may add to feeling down because now we feel guilty for bingeing too. Eating badly, drinking, not going out and mixing with friends/keeping up with hobbies etc also add to our feeling low and physically we may feel tired, irritable, depressed etc which leads back to more negative thoughts which feed the cycle.

To break the cycle we must first realise that we are in control of our thoughts and how we think effects us profoundly. Positive thinking really can change your life!

To book a counselling session contact Carol on 0867371737 or email Carol@believecounselling.ie 

Skype sessions also available.



Mindfulness and Stress Reduction


Let’s be honest it can be difficult to find a feeling of calm when we are stressed, worried or anxious! Teaching our self to become calm at these times is a very powerful tool. I believe being mindful (consciously staying present in the moment) is one of the greatest lessons we can learn. The ability to be in the moment allows us to not be concerned with the past or the future. We can only work with what is happening right now. To worry about the uncertainties of the future or situations from the past is a waste of time, energy and probably causing you unnecessary stress. 

When you are stressed out, anxious or worried ask yourself these simple questions;

What am I stressed out about? (Am I worried about something that has not happened and may not ever happen Or am I reliving/beating myself up over something from my past?)

Do I have control over this situation? (Is there something I can physically do to improve this situation or is someone else making the decisions?)

If you have no control over the situation take a few deep breaths, acknowledge that you can not change events and Let it Go!!

You are only hurting yourself by holding on to things you have no control over. Yes, I know some of us like to be in control of everything but it is simply not possible and accepting this is the first step to letting go.


You CAN Overcome any Fear.. it all starts with the first step…


We all have a fear of something or perhaps more accurately multiple things! The trouble is when we allow fear to control us, to stop us being ourselves, reaching our true potential or living the life we want to lead. Fear can be debilitating and left unchallanged can lead to anxiety disorders, stress, depression and even suicide. Realising and admitting our fears to our self can feel scary and unsettling but I believe not addressing or facing your fears can be more painful in the long run. Talking to mental health professional and working on the problem will change your life. It all starts with the first step… pick up the phone or send an email and make that first appointment! You deserve to live the happiest and most fulfilled life you can, don’t let life pass you by!! 

Depression – Signs to Watch Out For

What is Depression?

Depression is more than feeling down after hearing bad news or having a bad day these feelings are normal reactions to everyday situations.

Depression is more than that it is a mental health condition that affects an individuals thinking, energy, feelings and behaviour. It can range from mild to sever and greatly impacts the individual’s life on multiple levels interfering with work, home, social and intimate relationships. The signs to be aware of are listed below. If you or a loved one has four or more of these symptoms for a period of over two weeks please consult your GP.


Depression – Signs and Symptoms  


Feelings of helplessness, guilt, worthlessness, and pessimism everything feels hopeless

Loss of interest in or pleasure from activities you once enjoyed

Low mood, feeling empty or anxious

Sleep Disturbances – sleeping too much or to little

Decreased energy levels, fatigue, feeling weighed down

Changes in Appetite – Over eating or under eating – weight loss or weight gain

Difficulty remembering, concentrating or making decisions

Feeling irritable, restless or excessive crying

Physical symptoms such as headaches, nausea, persistent unexplained aches and pains that do not respond to treatment

Thoughts of Suicide or Suicidal Ideology

Attempted Suicide – Please contact Emergency Services Immediately


Remember! Depression is treatable or manageable with the right care. Do not suffer in silence, take the steps required to get your life back on track. You deserve to be yourself again.


The Gift of a Smile

A smile is something that can melt a person’s heart. When you are feeling low or having a bad day a smile from a stranger can lift your spirit instantly. It is a free and easy gift to give generously to the world around you. You may never know what it meant to a stranger in that moment but it could have had a profound effect. Keep smiling!! 

How far are you willing to go?

Never stop pushing yourself! Learning, growing, facing your fears, this is Living!!! 

Live well and be Happy!

Are you able to say ‘NO’?


It feels good to help others out as it can give us a sense of pride, accomplishment and importance. Far too often however we can put others before themselves out of a sense of obligation, fear of rejection & being judged and of being viewed negatively by others if we say ‘No’. 

‘No’, is one of the most powerful words in the English language. It allows us to decide for ourselves what we choose to do or not do. I have found that people forget that they have a choice in every situation, that they have the right to say no. 

Remember we can not do everything for everyone that asks us for help and there is no reason to feel bad for saying no. I have found that if you politely say no people will understand.

Today I want to encourage you to look at why you choose to do or not do things that come up in your life, be they for yourself or others as this will increase your self awareness. I also want to encourage you to feel free to say No! 



It is nearly the weekend!


Make the most of your weekend, love laugh and be happy!!




7 Reasons Most People are Afraid of Love by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

I stumbled across this interesting article on psychologytoday.com on the reasons why most people are afraid of real love. It is written by Lisa Firestone Ph.D and is a very interesting read. Enjoy!