Author Archives: Believe Counselling and Psychotherapy

About Believe Counselling and Psychotherapy

I am a qualified counsellor and psychotherapist and pre-accredited member of the Irish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (IACP). Some of the areas I work with include, Loss Self Esteem Issues Depression Relationship Issues LGBT Issues Polyamory Bereavement Addiction Stress/Anxiety/Panic Attacks Separation & Divorce Physical and Emotional Abuse Redundancy Co-dependency

Be Brave, Make a Change!

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Change can be a scary thought and actually taking the necessary steps can feel daunting, even terrifying!

Change however brings hope, adventure, challenges and new possibilities. It allows us to move forward, plan, experience and live our dreams.

By embracing changes and tackling the fears that holds us back we grow, we learn, we flourish, we live, we become who we want to be and create the life we want to lead.

Don’t let your fears hold you back. Be brave and take control of your life and your future! 

For help with tackling the issues that are keeping you stuck take the first step, call Carol on 0867371737 or email carol@believecounselling.ie

Changing your life starts now! 

 

 

 

 

Are you asking the right questions of yourself?

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As a therapist work I with individuals to help them to help themself. Asking the right questions is an important part of my work. If you are suffering from stress, anxiety, depression, work/family/relationship issues, or anything situation or problem that has you feeling stuck or unable to cope contact me at carol@believecounselling.ie.

Look at life through a different lens!

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Your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings influence your behaviour which in turn effects your physiology.

For example:

When we have negative thoughts the little voice in all our heads might tell us  “I am worthless”, “nobody likes me”, “I’ll never meet a man, sure who would want me” etc.. This negative voice is called your ‘Inner Critic’.

The critic is filling your head full of rubbish and distroying your self esteem so it is important to recognise this and challenge the critic constantly until you have control over it. This takes time and practice but will happen if you keep at it.

Now, for example, if your inner critic is telling you, ‘you will never get a man’ this will more then likely make you feel sad, depressed, unloved, ugly, lonely, worthless, perhaps afraid of being alone, which feeds into more negative thoughts and emotions.

So now we have negative thoughts creating our negative emotions. How does this effect our behaviour?

Well, we might avoid going out or seeing our friends becoming isolated. We may avoid situations or particular people or places. We may turn to alcohol or other drugs to numb the pain. We may use food to comfort ourself by over eating which may add to feeling down because now we feel guilty for bingeing too. Eating badly, drinking, not going out and mixing with friends/keeping up with hobbies etc also add to our feeling low and physically we may feel tired, irritable, depressed etc which leads back to more negative thoughts which feed the cycle.

To break the cycle we must first realise that we are in control of our thoughts and how we think effects us profoundly. Positive thinking really can change your life!

To book a counselling session contact Carol on 0867371737 or email Carol@believecounselling.ie 

Skype sessions also available.

 

 

Mindfulness and Stress Reduction

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Let’s be honest it can be difficult to find a feeling of calm when we are stressed, worried or anxious! Teaching our self to become calm at these times is a very powerful tool. I believe being mindful (consciously staying present in the moment) is one of the greatest lessons we can learn. The ability to be in the moment allows us to not be concerned with the past or the future. We can only work with what is happening right now. To worry about the uncertainties of the future or situations from the past is a waste of time, energy and probably causing you unnecessary stress. 

When you are stressed out, anxious or worried ask yourself these simple questions;

What am I stressed out about? (Am I worried about something that has not happened and may not ever happen Or am I reliving/beating myself up over something from my past?)

Do I have control over this situation? (Is there something I can physically do to improve this situation or is someone else making the decisions?)

If you have no control over the situation take a few deep breaths, acknowledge that you can not change events and Let it Go!!

You are only hurting yourself by holding on to things you have no control over. Yes, I know some of us like to be in control of everything but it is simply not possible and accepting this is the first step to letting go.

 

Enjoy making mistakes, they make us Human!

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There are so many people who wear masks or try to please others not taking into account their own needs and feelings. Slowly they are loosing them selves, their spirit is dying and their confidence low. Never be anyone other then who you are or who you want to be. Drop the mask, live your life, be free!