Monthly Archives: January 2014

A BIG Thank You to my online Followers

Hello all,

Thanks to everyone who follows my blog and offers feedback, tips and advice. I’d like to take some time to answer some  of your specific questions as I do appreciate your interest.

I do write and update the blog myself as you can see it was created on WordPress. I don’t have any advice to others setting up a website other then if it is a blog do it your way, keep it interesting and make it yours! Of course if it is a business page there is a lot more to consider.

 

As far as following me elsewhere you can follow me on facebook at Believe Counselling and Psychotherapy and on twitter on @believetherapy. I don’t write a news letter but thanks for asking.

 I don’t have any tips on stopping hackers or reducing spam unfortunately but if anyone does feel free to let me know so I can post it and pass it on : )

I hope that answers your questions. Thanks for all the inspiring comments, keep them coming and feel free to post! 

Many thanks & have a lovely weekend!

Carol 

Optimism

Optimism can get you through the hard times even if at times it can feel as if you at fooling yourself. Staying positive will keep you strong and moving forward!

Risk

 

How would focusing on the positive change your life?

If we are to simplify our lives by focusing on what is really important (family, friends, love, fun, a sense of belonging, helping others etc) and took the time to appreciate the little day to day things, how much of a difference do you think that would make to your life?

Happiness

Growth Yes Please!

If we are to grow we need to recognise where we have been, where we are now and where we want to go. Growth is achieved through making mistakes and learning from them. Perfection is an illusion, a standard not possible for anyone to reach. Be yourself, make mistakes and move forward on your journey for your mistakes will make you stronger and wiser enriching your your life.

 

Growth – Yes Please!

 

If we are to grow we need to recognise where we have been, where we are now and where we want to go. Growth is achieved through making mistakes and learning from them. Perfection is an illusion, a standard not possible for anyone to reach. Be yourself, make mistakes and move forward on your journey for your mistakes will make you stronger and wiser enriching your your life.

 

It is nearly the weekend!

 

Make the most of your weekend, love laugh and be happy!!

 

 

 

7 Reasons Most People are Afraid of Love by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

I stumbled across this interesting article on psychologytoday.com on the reasons why most people are afraid of real love. It is written by Lisa Firestone Ph.D and is a very interesting read. Enjoy!

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201401/7-reasons-most-people-are-afraid-love?tr=MostViewed 

“The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.” – Bob Moawad

Ask yourself – What your reasons are for drinking?

 

We all know that drinking is a massive problem the world over. One could argue that in Ireland It is culturally the norm to drink socially. But have you ever taken a few minutes to explore the reasons why you drink?

Stress management, relaxation, to forget/escape from problems or situations, boredom, you like the feeling of being drunk, you like the taste of alcohol, you think it’s ‘cool’, peer pressure, to overcome your shyness in public? These are all common reason why people say they drink but at what point has alcohol become a problem and how much is too much?

Do you rely on alcohol to function in any way?

Do you hide your drinking from loved ones and people around you?

Are you having trouble holding down a job/ or maintaining relationships due to your drinking?

Are you spending money on alcohol that you need for food, clothing, heating, rent etc

Do you drink on a daily basis?

Do you binge drink at weekends or other occasions?

If you are concerned by your drinking ask yourself these questions and try to uncover your reasons for consuming alcohol. Alcohol dependence is an addiction that requires help.

If you answer yes to any of these question alcohol may be an issue in your life.

For help with alcohol or other addictions contact Carol Noble in confidence at Carol@believecounselling.ie or 0867371737  

 

 

 

Hope – Where are we without it?

Tips for Preventing Burnout!

Tips for Preventing Burnout

Set boundaries: Learning how to say ‘NO’ will allow you not to over extend yourself or take on additional tasks that may cause you stress. Remember it is important to say ‘NO’ so you can have time for yourself or the tasks you would prefer to be doing.

Try to start the day with a meditation or by taking a few minutes to clear your mind and just breathe.

Eat healthy, exercise regularly and get good nights sleep. This will help with your mental health in general enabling you to manage life’s daily challenges better.

Ban technology for at least an hour every day. Switch of your PC, Laptop, phones and communication devices. Allow yourself to disengage completely.  

Take up a hobby, something that you will enjoy and look forward to doing.

Why not try something you have always wanted to do but never gotten around too? Or return to that kickboxing class?

Connecting with nature and being creative can be very therapeutic. Allow yourself to be creative in any form that works for you. Painting, drawing, kitting, writing songs, poems etc..

Burnout – Behavioural Signs

 

Behavioural Signs of Burnout

 

Isolating yourself from the people around you

Indecision/Procrastination

Avoiding or withdrawing from responsibilities

Arriving late to work, leaving work early or not going in at all

Snapping at people around you for no good reason

Using alcohol, drugs or food as a coping mechanism 

 
Check in tomorrow for tips on how to recover from burnout and how to avoid it in the future!

 

Workplace Bullying!!

 

While standing in line at the supermarket earlier I witnessed a shop assistant being both physically and verbally assaulted by another member of staff. Naturally I was appalled and so sought out and made a complaint to the manager on duty but it got me thinking. How many of us have experienced or know of someone who has experienced workplace bullying?

There does not appear to be any up to date statistics on the subject in Ireland but in 2007 a report commissioned by the Department of Enterprise, Trade and Employment found that out of 3,500 employees who responded to the survey 7.9% had experienced bullying in the previous six months, 10.7% of women and 5.8% of men where at risk, 60% of respondents considered quitting there jobs while 48% indicated that it had a negative effect on their life outside of work.

Check out Reachout.com for more information on workplace bullying.

http://ie.reachout.com/inform-yourself/bullying-and-personal-safety/bullying-at-work/?gclid=CNyZ-_uigLwCFaiE2woddXYAQQ

 

 

 

Burnout – Emotional Signs

Emotional Signs

Loss of your sense of self or doubting yourself

A feeling of detachment, feeling alone

Loss of motivation

Feeling defeated, helpless and trapped

Self doubt and a sense of failure

A lack of satisfaction or feeling of accomplishment from achievements

A negative outlook

 

Check back tomorrow for the behavioural signs of burnout… 

 

 

 

Are you Burnt Out?

Overwork, constant stress and a lack of appreciation or recognition for your hard work can lead to burn out. Working, raising a family, maintaining relationships and the day to day tasks that mount up can leave us feeling completely numb and detached with nothing else to give. Over the next few days I will be highlighting the signs, symptoms and behaviours associated with burnout and looking at ways to recover from and avoid burnout in the future.

Physical Signs of Burnout

Changes in Eating & Sleep patterns

Feeling drained constantly

Suffering aches and pains such as headaches, muscle and back aches

A general feeling of being rundown or unwell

Check back tomorrow for the emotional signs of burnout… 

Interesting article on how working outside office hours can lead to compulsive internet use and mental heath risks! (Dailymail.co.uk)

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2535717/Dangers-working-outside-office-hours-The-successful-employees-addicted-internet-burn-say-researchers.html 

 

 

The Reality of Depression