Monthly Archives: December 2013

Merry Christmas & Happy New Year from Believe Counselling & Psychotherapy

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I would like to wish everyone a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year. Thank you to everyone who has gotten in touch, liked or contributed to my blog, I look forward to more of your thoughts and comments next year.

Merry Christmas

Carol  

Anything is Possible

Thoughts for today… Reflection

Sitting back reflecting over the past year has been an eye opening experience. I am certainly not the person I was 12 months ago. I am stronger, wiser and more accepting of my imperfections. I am both happy and content. Like a lot of people I was over focused on work, caught up with problems, living in the future and missing the present. Missing life, love, joy and fun! Over the past few months I have changed my priorities and my life has changed for the better. I have learned not to worry about what I cannot control as everything will sort itself out without my being stressed. But more importantly I have begun to live in the present, enjoy the life & love that I have, my friends, my family and the world around me. Life is precious, it is a journey to experience fully – the joy, the pain and everything in between! With that said I hope I have inspired you to reflect back over this year to see what changes you would like to make to improve your life in 2014.

Generosity

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.”
Dale Carnegie

Fear

Fear is the strongest of all shackles holding us back. Fear stops us from trying, prevents us from taking risks, growing, learning & succeeding. It weakens our spirit and creates in us anxiety, self doubt, negative self talk, low self esteem, judgement and in extreme cases hate. However fear can be conquered, anxiety can be worked through, practical and emotional skills can be learned and developed. Don’t let fear hold you back! Contact Carol@believecounselling.ie or call 0867371737 and take back your control.

Tips to Reduce Stress this Christmas

Did Somebody Mention Christmas?

Arghhhh! Christmas is nearly upon us and if you are like me it has snuck up on you leaving you completely overwhelmed and under prepared. While Christmas is a lovely time of year it can also be the most stressful! Here are a few tips to help reduce your stress levels over the Christmas period.

 

Decide on a realistic budget and stick to it!

Christmas can be an expensive time of year and it can be easy to spend more than you anticipate. Decide in advance what you can afford to spend. Then split it as required between presents, food, travel, clothes and any other costs you anticipate. It may help to make it your goal to stay on or within budget. Remember you don’t have to spend a lot of money on gifts simple thoughtful hand made gifts are enough to make a loved one feel special. 

 

Plan in Advance

Planning in advance is a great way to reduce stress as it allows you to be on top of what needs to be done. Start by making a plan for each task. Decide what has to be done and by who. Delegating is also a great way to reduce stress. Assign everyone a suitable task which they can take responsibility for so that everything will get done and nobody feels over loaded.  So who will be picking up granny this year and who will make the desert?

 

Will the family be visiting?

Christmas can be hectic visiting family, friends and neighbours. It can be helpful to speak with loved ones about what their plans are for Christmas to avoid any last minute decisions around whose house to visit and at what time. Knowing this information in advance will also help you structure your day to complete any remaining tasks you need to get finished.

 

Travelling home on public transport?

Make sure to book tickets, transfers and seats well in advance to avoid difficultly getting to your destination. Check in online well in advance and print off e-tickets to avoid waiting where possible.

 

Most importantly….

Surround yourself with people you Love.

Spend as much time as you can with the people who make you happy! If loved ones are away this Christmas arrange to skype or call them on the day. A brief hello and Merry Christmas will lift your spirits and help you feel more connected in their absence.

 

 

Hope

I would be of the opinion that hope is one of the most important beliefs a person can have. It may feel like the hurt and pain experienced during difficult times will never end but it does. Sometimes we need a little hope just to keep us going. 

Is Happiness a Choice?

Happiness can be a foreign feeling at times particularly for those suffering from depression or anxiety. But can we choose to be happy? Let me know your thoughts…. 

 

 

Gratitude

If you find yourself feeling that you are lacking in something take a minute to appreciate what you do have. You will find that you have more to be grateful for that you think! Why not take a minute at the end of each day to acknowledge what you are grateful for. It can be anything from getting a seat on the bus or having the perfect latte, to tucking your kids in at night or telling someone you love them. Being grateful for the little things can change how you view the world and increase your happiness. Give it a try!

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“It`s not your job to like me – it`s mine.” – Byron Katie

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